Tonight we’ll take a look at one of the biggies, a veritable matriarch of the sex blogosphere, Always Aroused Girl. This blog is interesting for several reasons. First, its longevity allows a reader to observe its evolution. Second, it manages to combine sex, life and, yes, business, in a way that seems, well, not as jarring as it should. Third, it does these things in a pretty unassuming and down-to-earth way.
Although the genesis of this blog is apparently lost to a hardware/software catastrophe some years ago, you can still go back and find where the famous AAG started, tentatively posting pictures of flowers, working through separation and divorce and a somewhat, at least it seems, halting reintroduction to sex in all its forms. The thing is, AAG doesn’t seem to make a big deal of it. It’s just the way it is. Kind of like my observation of the other evening, though, AAG seems to be tiring of the sex part a bit. Lately, a large percentage of her posts have been categorized under “Family” and just the other night she waxed eloquent about just wanting to have some plain home-cooked human contact.
Along the way she has picked up a lot of pointers and is more than happy to share her knowledge and experience. Thinking of trying anal sex? Look here. Want to change the taste of your semen? She has the answer. Need to torture a rapist? Got you covered. Sex toys? She’s tried them all (no need to link, they are all over the side bar). Just don’t ask her to wear sexy shoes.
Back to evolution for a second. Things here start kind of slow, pick up some pretty good sexual steam as AAG leaves her marriage (you can learn a lot about the good and bad of online dating here), then more personal non-sexual stuff comes in, and eventually we have…blogging as a business. By now you probably have figured out that I would ordinarily jump all over (and not in a good way) any blogger with a virtual tip jar. I surprised myself here though, after thinking about it a bit. AAG has a lot of wisdom and plain old advice, from which we can all learn something. I charge for my advice, why shouldn’t she? And with her, payment is still optional.
Blog type: Sport Utility Blog
Erotic Quality: Anymore, this blog is not really about sexual adventure or experiences, except to the extent they serve to illustrate a point. Lately, it hasn’t been about sex very much at all except to the extent you want to try to win a prize by writing a story about one (or more) of her sponsor’s sex toys. Still, there is a lot for those who will take the time to go back into the archives. The sex is not always perfect either, just like it isn’t for the rest of us.
Honesty: I think this factor is one reason for the appeal and longevity of the site. AAG manages to make some more “out there” aspects of her sexual evolution and make them seem natural. If you want her own take on the issue, look here, a post from 2006. I do think AAG is getting a little tired of things, though. It sure seems like she is ready to move on, but is staying around because her audience wants her to stay around. Maybe I’m wrong, but I think this blog is entering its autumn, even if the some of us still don’t want to acknowledge the dropping temperature.
Presentation: Go back awhile if you want the flower photos. The commercial aspect is a little annoying, but the site is very easy to navigate, an especially useful factor given how much material there is here.
Comments: Lots and lots….just what you would expect. The more interesting are those that pop up every now and then to question things like whether family belongs on a sex blog. AAG’s many fans usually drown those folks out.
Fetish Factor: I already mentioned AAG’s aversion to sexy shoes, but pretty much everything else is apparently fair game. She does have a real affinity for mutual anal sex. If you really want to test your mettle, read this: Snap. And then…read the comments…yikes!
Overall: There is a lot of material here. We get to know AAG as much as we can through an electronic medium, and clearly there are many who feel they know her well. She is a supporter of many bloggers in this genre and has lots to offer anyone who will take some time on her site. Maybe the thing I like the most is her accessibility. Success may have tired her out a bit, but it hasn’t changed her much.
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What a thorough and thoughtful review. AAG really has grown to become somewhat of a matriarch in the sexblogging community; she’s got all the best connections and seems to know all the “cool kids”. I rest easy knowing that even if AAG were to tire of her blog, she’d never leave us completely because she’s got just too darn many ties to sex and masturbation on the internets.
I havent yet had the time to go back and read archives except what she has linked, but her blog is one of the first that I started reading. Yes she may talk more about family now, but she’s a real person – not a sex machine. Real people have life cycles of periods of sexual blase and periods of sexual circus. So to speak.
I enjoy, like many others, just about every post. She speaks of her (sometimes frustrating) children with such frazzled humor that its a great read.
The thing I’ve always appreciated about AAG is that support factor you’ve mentioned. She still clearly thinks of herself as a blogger, not beyond the rest of us. She is affable, and brave, and admirable, in my opinion. I agree, too, that she’s getting tired, but sticking around out of a sense of responsibility much of time. She still has lots to offer, though.
I’ve been reading AAG for over 2 years, and was fortunate enough to read the early blog archives before they were lost to the crash. She and her blog have evolved in ways I couldn’t have imagined back then. One issue that’s become clear to me lately is that she is, first and foremost, a writer. She posts almost daily, and quite eloquently, but she writes for herself and from the heart. Even with her huge fan base and internet support, she wouldn’t write if she didn’t want to. This isn’t autumn….I think she’s just hitting her stride in her life and her writing.
I think part of AAG’s great appeal is that she does indeed weave sex into stories of her day to day life – that is how sex is for lots of people – it isn’t something separate to the exclusion of all else that goes on. She shows how a person can be a parent and responsible for the wellbeing of small people and retain a sense of self that includes a celebration of pleasure and sexuality. I don’t see her as a matriarch in any stiff or stuffy sense, just a mother who is sexy – combined with a great, warm writing style AAG’s blog has a good deal of panache!
I’d have to disagree that AAG is in her Autumn. I read a lot of sex websites that are extremely vulgar – and while I can enjoy vulgarity on occasion, reading it every single post gets…well…boring to me. I love how she weaves not just her sex but her real life as well into a beautiful quilt of a story. You never know, when you visit, if you’re going to get a sexy story about one of her encounters or her wondering how she can get her children to do something or other.
Also, she is genuinely NICE. A lot of those so-called big names in the sex blog industry aren’t. They don’t take the time to acknowledge you if you leave a comment or email them and AAG does. She’s definitely the best of the best.
Thank you all for the insightful comments, both here and over on AAG’s site. Whether it’s autumn or not, AAG is an important and valued leader of this community, and as Randi says, genuinely nice.
She does seem a lot more family focused as of late… maybe the fall just does that to people, what with everything being back to school and what not. In her defense she did just lose one of her regular playmates. Hopefully the addition of the Esse will spice up future posts once she puts it to use…
Ah, the wide spectrum of speculation through to utter conviction that all here know what AAG’s blogging intentions, motivations and true nature might be.
What a load of old cock.
i actually think this is a darned fine review except i don’t think it’s autumn for her.
what i think is that she has a still evolving blog that changes as her priorities change. she herself has said that she regrets her name sometimes because of the connotations and really i think we have to allow evolution or she will stagnate and her lovely blog will die.
i suspect that now that she HAS sex she doesn’t have to write about it as much; that’s certainly been my experience anyway. [course now i have no partner so i'll probably start writing smut more than i have been...]
course now that i see what nice reviews you write i kind of want one myself
AAG’s talent is to invite you into her life, not just her bedroom. Many sex bloggers are a set of genitals, not a person with a mind. My girlfriend and I started a blog recently and we’re working on making it smutty but more than just pure smut. Personal but anonymous. It’s harder than it seems.
I find it hard to find websites such as these that you review. I often want to read about other peoples experiences, but it is very difficult to find them.
I have stumbled across your site, and it will be opening a wide variety of sites that I have been looking for.
The review was a great read from what I did skim read through, and this blog is one that I definately will be reading in the near future. I still have to check some of the other ones out, but I’m just as sure that they will be exactly what I have been looking for.
Mysty, all these ladies have something to offer, and I encourage you to read them all.
Dylan, good luck with your site. It’s hard enough just writing reviews.
Fie on that “autumn” business. She’s still young and fresh as the day she was born. Complex, rich, multidimensional with a topnote of artless whimsy. She rocks.
It may be autumn, but seasons do follow. If a blog circled one subject all the time, then it would get tedious (for the reader and the blogger).
What can you really observe in a blog but what a blogger writes? You don’t observe the life behind the blog, not to its full extent, thus reviewing a blog, wait, a man devoting his time to reviewing sex blogs written by women, evaluating the ’sex’, is pretty sad to me.
Hmm Gigi, if you look at the frequency of posts, you can see the amount of time I spend doing this. In any event, I am glad you took the time to read it and even more glad you took the time to comment.