At the recommendation of several readers, I spent a fair amount of time browsing Indiscretion. The prolific blogger Marianne uses this site to document a journey of adultery, though in reading the content, that basic subject matter seems more incidental than focus. It’s really more the excuse for us all to go there and talk about sex. And on Indiscretion, talk we do, as much about the often paradoxical feelings created by sex and relationships as the act itself.
Don’t get me wrong; there is sex here in both variety and abundance. Marianne most frequently uses the standard “fuck and tell” format to describe dalliances of all kinds outside her marriage. She seems primarily into sex without attachment but at the same time admits to a level of attachment in even the most casual of encounters.
The writing is quite literate and thought provoking. The J Word is a wonderfully concise wrestle with her own (she didn’t say it but I will) hypocrisy. I also appreciated Revision, a starkly honest flip side to the relentless pursuit of sexual exploration and gratification. My favorite post was Package Deal, probably because it touches on the issues that prompted me to start this site. Marianne asks:
If you want me — do you want me? If you want me, you’ll get what you want, probably, and much more… and the more won’t necessarily be pretty. …
Can you handle it? Can you handle me? Do you want to? Do I want you to? If you figure it out, if you figure me out, let me know.
Although the site is really about sex, many of the best posts are categorized as “not really about sex.” They still are about sex, of course, and depending on why you are here, are often way more interesting than the “he tied me up and screwed me silly” posts.
This is a big site, so here are some other representative highlights: Need (an evocative expression of lust); Inconvenient (the ultimate Dear John letter); Choices (a cogent explanation of why Marianne chooses the lifestyle described in the blog); and One Track Mind (Marianne’s ode to a cock).
I’ll let you find the hot sex scenes on your own.
Blog type: Erotic diary
Erotic quality: The erotic quality here comes in two flavors: sex and talking about sex. If you want good raunchy descriptions, they are here. If you want some thought provoking reading about sex, you will find that here too, and really it’s the better part of the site.
Honesty: This ranks pretty high, though I am always leery of those authors that I know blog a lot and sometimes change their angle on a given subject. That doesn’t make their writing less honest, as many people, especially women, have many facets they may want to explore. As to this blog itself, I get the feeling the adultery/infidelity theme is really more a vehicle for expression, or even a metaphor, than it is an actual lifestyle. Even if that is the case, it doesn’t make it less honest. But here is an interesting quote:
You know, after you’ve been writing for a while about sex, people start actually believing what you tell them.
Presentation: The site itself is clean. There are (alleged) photos of the author and some of her intimate possessions sprinkled around. The quality of the pictures is not very good, but really, come here for the articles, not the images. The categories are helpful, especially given the size of the site and the diverse nature of the posts.
Comments: The comments on this site are some of the best I’ve seen. Marianne has been around awhile and has what appears to be a bigger than average regular following. Moreover, the nature of many of her posts stimulates discussion.
Fetish Factor: To briefly categorize, this site is genus: adultery, species: BDSM. But there is plenty of everything here. You’ll find something you like.
Overall: You’ll come for the sex, but stay for the discussion. I enjoyed this site very much.
4 Comments
You know, for a reviewer, you’re awfully generous and fair. Thank you for the kind words and your judicious observations. I do hope you keep up with the reviewing… I will most certainly be visiting the other blogs you have highlighted here.
As you can well imagine, I can’t help but respond to a couple of minor points. Re: the low quality photography on my site. I know!:) Unfortunately, most of them were taken by me or by a lover in the midst of … activities … and then cropped to protect my identity. I do wish I could manage the quality of images that some of my compatriots do. On the other hand, I can guarantee that each and every photo has been exactly as purported — me or my lover(s) or my things, etc. I decided from the beginning not to acquire photos elsewhere for purely illustrative purposes, although I know that has its place in the world of sex blogging.
You also questioned whether or not the events described were reality or more of a metaphor / vehicle. The description of them is definitely a vehicle for me to express my thoughts and reflections, but let me assure you that all events have been real and precisely as I perceived and experienced them. Sometimes, I’d like to be able to write fiction, but right now, I seem to be too inwardly focused for that to happen. In terms of the fact that I clearly vacillate in my point of view and opinions… well, that’s just how I am. I knew early on that there would be not much point in trying to stay consistent and avoid hypocrisy… too much work and just not who I am.
Thank you again for your kind review. I will place a link to you on my blog.
Marianne, I am very pleased you stopped by and commented. Thank you for sharing a bit more about yourself and your motivations. My only question now is, where do you find the time?
Thanks again, and I really like your site.
Blogging is easy. Having affairs is easy-ish. Keeping up with reading and commenting on everyone else’s blog is hard.
Good review, Marianne’s blog IS very interesting.
And totally agree with the last thing she says in her comment: “Keeping up with reading and commenting on everyone else’s blog is hard.”
It feels like it’s all I do, it IS quite time consuming